HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED EVEN WHEN THINGS GET DIFFICULT
Where we find things difficult
You might have heard or read of, which describes a complex situation, in “The Merchant of Venice” by Sir William Shakespeare. As illustrated in The Merchant of Venice, Antonio owes money to Shylock who is a spiteful moneylender and Shylock demands a pound of Antonio’s flesh as the contract due to failure to repay. However, Portia saves Antonio’s life at the very end of the story in the court with her knowledge pointing out the logic “you can have a pound of flesh but no one drop of blood” and she was able to defeat the cunning moneylender.
The story describes a problem that people face which seems impossible but ends with an amazing unpredictable but positive and favorable end against the villain. If you have read, heard the story, or even watched the drama or movie no matter your age you might have been numb or felt helpless before the end without a clue at all.
Let’s forget the old fabricated story if you are a millennial and have a look at Khaby Lame who has no celebrity appearance and went through many obstacles in his past but has a million followers on Instagram and is so famous now. Or else, someone like Nick Vujicic who lost his all limbs but is famous all over the world as a motivational speaker and a true example for the words of his speeches.
Humans never thought that they could touch down on extraterrestrial terrains but they did after massive efforts of continued trying. Therefore, every human can do whatever they want as long as they have motivation towards their own set goals.
What is motivation?
Motivation is the drive to achieve your needs. The emotion for a need can be influenced in 04 ways such as (01) the amount that you want, (02) what will you gain, (03) personal expectations, and most importantly (04) what you will lose from not achieving your need. Everybody wants big achievements but the problem is how to keep the motivation until the end.
Simply, it is like driving or going by vehicle to somewhere you decided earlier, and as long as you drive or travel you can reach the destination as planned. In case of any loss like an accident, tire puncture, loss of fuel, or any breakdown you will feel it difficult but still, your motivation to reach the destination by any other mode may be walking. For example, you are studying for an exam like IELTS, PTE, OL, or AL and you have no time to participate or you used to learn through physical classes. However, if you make yourself motivated, you can still use online educational materials which are available on www.esiphala.lk if you intend to learn from a professional body.
Why motivation is important in our life
Our life is full of unpredictable unplanned journey and the next second we may face something really jarring or extreme fortune. Whatever it may be we must be able to face the situation and tolerate and absorb as much as we can. For example, a bereavement of a loved one in an unexpected moment, while you are getting prepared for an exam, can be an extreme situation. To a certain extent, motivation is personal therefore what gets you going maybe not do anything for someone else. For example, we saw a rugby player in a school league participating in a match while his mothers’ death and winning the game for his school. So, self-motivation is a key attribute that makes you a winner in a professional subject or area in your life because it pushes you forward no matter how hard the situation is. If you have talked to any professionals in any subject their stories are quite similar, they say “I determined that I’m going to do this” at a certain point in life.
How to stay motivated
The first rule is “Do not get frustrated over any and shit can happen to anybody, so calm down”. Most people struggle with their feelings in their life and that is completely natural because we are humans and we have feelings. However, we should not let emotions overcome our motivation therefore use our brains to stay logical. Here are a few tips to stay motivated.
Tip one – Don’t stick to one goal have a second plan
It is really common that people dream to achieve something big but get frustrated in unsuccessful attempts. May it be an exam to get selected for university, get promoted in your career, or go abroad for permanent residence where there is a probability of losing your hope. If you have focused only on getting permanent residency and if you get rejected, you may have nothing left to try again. But if you ever had a second plan you can further try to get permanent residency in a good country by going as a student and thereby you can have your goal after some years.
Tip two – Embrace the goal in your life
Do not ever turn or look back if you have a goal until you reach it. Think about how you can include that goal in your life. Break your goal into small pieces like easy tasks, and regular checkups to complete each step. Have some reminders where visible to your eyes to stay on track and these reminders will help you to stick to the plan. Speak to yourself and question yourself in peace about how you can finish with your strengths. Positive self-talk is important and effective in managing motivation because mindfulness helps keep you relaxed and focused. instead of saying ‘I couldn’t’, say ‘I did it so far to this level. Always remember that you have a second plan as well so focus on both.
Tip three – Get help from your loved ones
No matter how hard we try and sometimes we need human affection because humans are social beings. You might have seen soldiers are appreciated on battlefields even if they lose in the frontline in the next second. Therefore, inform your family and friends about your plan and get their kind and positive help towards you. They will help you stay motivated because sometimes we need the willpower to win hard goals.
Tip Four – Stay on track
Regular reviews about your goal and its progress will surely help to improve your self-esteem. It is really good if you can use a diary or a chart to measure your history of records. This will help you not to repeat any failure and continue and multiply any successful attempts.
Tip Five – Associate with good ones
Have some really good friends and positive people that bring peace and positive vibes to your mind. They will enhance your positive self-talk and helps to manage the symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Tip Six – Have some simple goals too
Let’s say if you were not able to achieve as you planned. If you ever had minded about simple a goal like health you might have done some exercise which definitely assists you to stay healthy in physically and mentally. Or else, if you ever had a travel diary you may have loads of memories than someone who you ever wished to be. Maybe one day you can travel around the whole world while earning money from blogging and a reputation for being traveled and seeing archaeology.
Summary
Adopting the above six tips into your life will be the key to staying motivated. However, being motivated is not as easy as we spoke about above. There are enough examples from human history and even some are available in recent days that can be taken of how people have been motivated even when it has been so difficult to cope with. People get motivated to achieve something that they think, is the best according to their perception. However, this emotion towards motivation is influenced by some factors but we can control the influences by adopting six tips. Motivation is the key to anyone who wished to be successful in their life.
